Funerals

Funeral Guidelines

Funeral Scheduling
To schedule a funeral, please call the parish office at 651-426-3245. If this is after hours and you need immediate assistance you can call our BeFriender Coordinator Mary Kaufhold at 651-777-1042. We will need to know the name of the deceased, the name and telephone number of the family contact, and the name of the funeral home.  We will obtain any other necessary information to help facilitate funeral planning which will involve the availability of the priest.

Arrangements for the Liturgies
The funeral coordinator will contact the designated family member to arrange a meeting with the family to assist in the grieving process, to discuss the details of the funeral, the wake, and the burial, and to gain further information about the deceased.

Several opportunities are offered for family involvement in the funeral Mass.  These include placement of the funeral pall at the beginning of the Liturgy, bearing the gifts of bread and wine at the offertory procession, and selecting the Readings from Scripture to be used at the Mass.

The Vigil Liturgy (“Wake”) and/or the funeral luncheon are the ideal opportunities for family members and friends to share reflections about the deceased.  Within reason, there are no limitations of time or content in these settings.  The priest celebrant or deacon will make every effort to reflect knowledge of the deceased in the homily after the Gospel, and weave that knowledge into the Christian message based on the Scriptures.  Accordingly, eulogies are not permitted at the funeral Mass itself.

Music is an integral part of the Sacred Liturgy.  The funeral coordinator will work with the Music Director regarding Church guidelines governing liturgical music and will advise the family as to whether specific requests are permissible during the Mass.

Funeral Luncheons
Should the family choose to provide a luncheon following the Mass or burial, Kohler Hall may be used.
 
Arrangements for the funeral luncheon can be made with the funeral coordinator. Cost of the luncheon will be discussed and made payable to St. Jude of the Lake. Volunteers from our funeral committee will provide the luncheon at the families request or will be available to serve the luncheon if catered. The funeral coordinator will be in contact with the committee.


Fees
The funeral stipend is $450.00, which includes the services of a soloist and accompanist.  Additional musicians would need to be paid directly by the family.

An offering may be made to the Parish in appreciation for the services provided.  This is, however, not required and is purely discretionary.